1. What are your sexual strengths and weaknesses?
Strengths: Always horny (I love sex!). Multi-orgasmic. Love to give oral (women are so intricate!). Can kiss and lick and suck for hours. Committed to satisfying my partners. Always pushing boundaries (public sex, sex outdoors, sex in cars, sex with the windows open, sex in places I’ve never had sex before…). A sexy body. Easily aroused. Love being nude. I’m older and better!
Weaknesses: Highly opinionated. No patience with prudes. Vocal feminist (not rude, just easily provoked). I often extol the sexual superiority of women (just a fact; not a man-hater). Actually, I don’t think these are weaknesses, just things some people may not like. May as well throw in my preference for women. Actually, the only weaknesses I had years ago were insecurity and doubt about myself, which inhibited the enjoyment of my sexuality. I’ve outgrown that.
2. As a couple, what are your sexual strengths and weaknesses?
Hmm, guess I’ll skip this one. Well, one strength with a new lover: I’m not cheating!
3. How do you make intimacy a priority in a relationship?
Sex every day. It’s a rule. Masturbation counts.
4. How has your sex life changed in the last five years?
Anal. I love taking a new lover, getting her hot, wet, breathing heavy, out-of-her-mind aroused, then inch my index finger back to her turbo button. I also enjoy getting stuffed in both holes, fingers and/or toys (much more than a few years ago). If I have to run a boring errand during the day, I’ll insert a butt plug. Puts a wiggle in my walk! Anal kind of grew on (in?) me. It’s a set of delicious nerve endings that I’m learning how to incorporate into my sexual repertoire—sort of like how my breasts and nipples woke up when I was in my late teens. I’m also more enthusiastic and accepting that masturbation is the solid foundation of my sex life. Anywhere I go, I can get laid! And masturbating with another person is so much fun.
5. Has blogging helped your sex life? How?
Oh, god, yes! I just get wet…wait, blogging? Shit, I read flogging. Sorry. Blogging certainly has expanded the range of my exposure to different opinions, kinks and erotica writers. Can’t say it’s materially helped my sex life. Wait: Bloggers have pointed me toward new sex toys. That’s nice.
Bonus: Has loneliness or emotional hunger ever caused you to “fall in love”?
Less and less. Age has its advantages, I’m slowly learning. Maturity means being alone can be a hell of a lot better than in a relationship just for the sake of a relationship.