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Or maybe the question should be, Can you get addicted to masturbating?

I think not. Well, maybe if you’re always late for work and can’t hold down a job because you can’t leave the house in the morning because you’ve got to rub one off. And another. And another.

But I didn’t get to ask the question. Erotica writer Rachel Kramer Bussel did, in Dame Magazine, Can You Become Addicted to Your Vibrator?

For one lady, the answer is yes. She got hooked on her Hitachi Magic Wand. Who wouldn’t? It’s the real class act of vibrators.

But addicted? Really?

The recurring argument is that some women prefer their vibrator(s) to people. And the problem is…?

As one expert said, “Use of a vibrator is momentarily satisfying. But it doesn’t answer the need for a partner to hold you, converse with you, commiserate with you, and love you.”

Sure. Right. And it doesn’t rule it out, either. And considering that half of the human race has a lousy track record with satisfying the other half…spending eighty bucks for a quality vibrator makes a lot of sense.

Bussel quotes a woman saying that masturbation is “under attack.” Sexual intercourse is better. Using a vibrator to induce an orgasm before falling asleep is selfish. Fingers are better.

WTF?

People, get real. First off, who has only one vibrator? I’ve got a drawer full (and lots of batteries, too). And, yeah, the Hitachi. I mix it up. I use my fingers. A lot. I go back and forth. I jill off in the tub with a hand shower (gawd!). Ever gotten off riding your washing machine during the spin cycle? Use your imagination!

Masturbation is selfish? Really? Then masturbate with a friend. Think of how much better the world would be if people got together just to masturbate. Movies. Outside. Barbecues. Watching sports on TV. Why the hell not?

Loosen up. Take off your clothes. Have fun. Get off. Enough with the guilt.

The first comment after the article by Dangerous Lilly, though, nailed it.

This is something I feel very strongly about. For YEARS I wasn’t orgasmic or, if I was, it was such a mild orgasm that I didn’t recognize it. I didn’t learn what a clitoral orgasm felt like until I bought my first vibrator in my late 20’s. I started out thinking I needed the Hitachi but over time have refined it to “pinpoint and rumbly” vibrator. The kicker? I’m now able to orgasm much more easily through fingers alone (or even a more mild vibrator) than before. It seems to have rebooted nerve endings for me. So to be told that I’m broken for needing a vibrator 95% of the time is hurtful and just plain wrong. I think one can get “addicted” to the endorphin rush and ease of an easy orgasm, but not the vibrator itself. 

Thank you.